For exasperated artists, writers and other tremulous creatives

The Undoing

A space for letting go of emotional tangles and mental knots.
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Frans.
Berlin
Who runs this?
Sally Underwood, postgraduate in fine art from the Royal Academy in London. Fifteen years writing for investment banks. Trauma-informed bodywork practioner. Twelve years of Sedona Method practice. Making things. Getting things badly wrong.
Berlin, online EN / DE (understands German, but facilitates mostly in English
Das Gemälde „Selbstporträt mit Stab“ von Maria Lassnig (1971)
Maria Lassnig, Das Gemälde „Selbstporträt mit Stab“, 1971 (Creative Commons Attribution-Share Alike 4.0)

01 / 03 A quote, a painting

The vocabulary of one's self-criticism is so impoverished and clichéd. We are at our most stupid in our self-hatred.
— Adam Phillips, psychoanalyst and writer
The pivot

The argument
in three
movements:

01 · Quote
02 · Groan
03 · Turn

“Sometimes we are responsible for things not because they are our fault, but because we are the only ones who can change them.”

— Lisa Feldman Barrett, Seven and a Half Lessons… (CHECK SOURCE)
Groan. How much more must you do? Another pithy self-help observation that should be empowering and leaves you feeling worse.
— And yet
These are the words of a serious neuroscientist offering a different account of selfhood: not a thing to be uncovered, but a thing the brain is constructing in real time, from the materials available. That changes what the work has to be.

· 02 The diagnosis

The actual problem. It isn't what you think it is.
What's named

Most people who find their way here have already named the problem many times. Anxiety. Creative block. Relationship patterns. Self-sabotage. Procrastination. The inner critic that won’t shut up.

These are real. But they are symptoms of something underneath — a self that never quite formed into something reliable.

It hasn’t persisted because you lack effort, understanding, tools, or discipline. It isn’t even fully explained by a difficult childhood.

The self is not something you discover. It is something the brain constructs, continuously, from the materials available. If those materials were inconsistent, the construction is unstable. You didn’t cause that. You wouldn’t have chosen it.

Oskar Schlemmer, Triadisches Ballett, Die Bühne im Bauhaus. Band 4, 1925.
Oskar Schlemmer, Triadisches Ballett, Die Bühne im Bauhaus. Band 4, 1925. (Public Domain - PD-Germany-§134 KUG)

02 / 03 A quote, a Bauhaus ballet

"When I look at my life I realise the mistakes I really regret were not errors of judgement but failures of feeling."
— Jeanette Winterson, author
A single question

What if this is it,this life, now?

Not the new life that comes once you've found the right therapist, the right partner, the right breakthrough. This one.

03 The work has two elements

What we actually do together.

Not analysis. Not reframing. Not interpretation. Two distinct movements, working in alternation across a session.

First movement
Releasing

An expanded version of the Sedona Method — a structured process for releasing emotional discomfort and invasive thought loops. Not analysing. Not reframing. Releasing. Easy to learn, surprisingly fast.

Method · Sedona / Trauma-informed
Second movement
Making

Action — writing, drawing, making, doing — inside a structured space. A coherent self is not built through introspection alone. It’s built through acting, surviving the discomfort of acting, and discovering you had more agency than you believed.

Practice · One hour, online, your material
László Moholy-Nagy, Jealousy, 1927, photomontage (George Eastman Museum, Rochester NY)
László Moholy-Nagy, Jealousy, 1927, photomontage (Public Domain - PD-Germany-§134 KUG)

03 / 03 A quote, a photomontage

"Artists are people driven by the tension between the desire to communicate and the desire to hide."
— Jeanette Winterson, author

· 05 Fit

Who this is for.

Perhaps some of this sounds familiar
This is for you if —
  • You are intelligent and self-aware — and neither has solved the problem.
  • You find most coaching offers too reductive, too focused on practicalities you can already work out alone.
  • You have a persistent sense that your life is smaller than it could be, and can’t name exactly why.
  • You feel a deep sense of wrongness — or not-good-enoughness — at odds with your external situation.
  • You are sick of being told that seeing clearly is “being negative”.
  • You want to be taken seriously and listened to, rather than treated or managed.
— And, honestly, not for you if:
  • You are in acute mental health crisis. Please seek qualified support.
  • You are looking for advice, or for someone to tell you what to do.
  • You need a promise of transformation that will make everything easy.